16 DECEMBER - THE DAY OF THE VOW (APARTHEID)
NOW CALLED - DAY OF RECONCILIATION (NEW SOUTH AFRICA)
CENTRAL FOCUS - THE CENOTAPH - CENOTAPH HALL - VOORTREKKER MONUMENT
CONNECTION BETWEEN VOORTREKKER MONUMENT AND THE BATTLE OF BLOOD RIVER
Living the Faerytale - Part 1
Having married at 19, had two children by the age 22, and divorced by age 29, I had clearly lived the fairytale without the happily ever after!
Totally disillusioned I decided - I’m the man. This was 1984!
I was brought up, as is common these days for girls, to be educated and take up a career in the same way that men do - encouraged to regard marriage and bringing up our own children although seriously, but something to be taken on, after/during focusing on our careers!!! Clearly I did not see marriage/motherhood as a full-time, hands-on, this is what I want to succeed at, let me put all my energy and focus on, quest!!! I naively assumed this would all sort itself out as life went along!
Once my children were of school going age my worldview was severely shaken up. Working as a secretary at the time, I suddenly thought being a teacher would have been a far better career option as I could then work and be with my children when they finished school!! When making my career choice as a school leaver this was furthest from my mind - the last career I wanted to do was - nursing or teaching.
Once divorced I realized to be I’m the man, I needed to earn more than a meager secretaries wage - I wanted to be the boss!
About a year of being the boss in a business that I took over from my Granny was enough for me and I decided to take up my first love - music and combine it with my new found career option to earn a living and I started teaching guitar!
Soon I was music assistant to the Director of Music at a prominent private Durban boys preparatory school - and writing my own songs - 1987/88.
Living the Faerytale - Part 2
During this period I met and married another prince!!! This time however, I became the Wicked Stepmother - this was around the time of the release of the movie My Stepmother’s an Alien I never got to see the movie, but I know that this title made lots of sense to my step children at the time!
This marriage lasted about 18 months and left me pretty exhausted to say the least.
The chaos that we experienced when two ready made families amalgamated was more than any of us could bear!
A statistic once again at the ripe old age of 33 - I, who did not believe in divorce - was devastated and broken hearted.
Because of the chaos and sibling rivalry going on during my 2nd marriage, my two children had decided to go to live with their Dad and stepmother - my worst nightmare had come true!
The Light at the End of the Tunnel
Having lost my home for the second time I packed all that I could fit into my little Nissan bakkie and moved into a rented room About 8 months later I had managed to rent a cottage and even though I had no furniture this was much better than sleeping on a mattress on the floor in my one room!
My devastation at being a statistic was complete - but I hung on to the thought -
For every Adam there is an Eve.
One day I threw myself face down on the mattress and cried - Beam me up Scottie - if this is it - then beam me up - for I have no purpose here. After hours of crying of course there I still was - going nowhere fast!! But a peace that passes all understanding was mine!
LIVING THE HAPPILY EVER AFTER
Weekends in my little cottage were very lonely, and I spent most of the time sleeping (I had many symptoms of ME - but that is another story). I could go to bed on a Friday night and wake up Sunday morning - eat - and go back to sleep until Monday morning when I had to go back work!
One such weekend on the 16th December 1990, I was feeling very low, and grabbing my guitar I started strumming the beat of a waltz that was to turn into a yearning love song for yet another chance at the faerytale in order to get to the part I had twice missed - the happily ever after!!
I was way past the stage of blaming this one or that, this circumstance or that and had grown to realize that even though I had not been perfect in both marriages - but neither had they - the princes - I deserved another shot! This time I would follow the star given to me - no matter what!
Alienated from family and friends - no one understood my pain, my circumstances, my situation, my decisions - I longed to be understood and accepted for who I am - warts and all!
On the 22nd December 1990, by a miracle, rent by the Stars and the Source of my light, engineered by my lioness forever friend, I met my Lion Prince! We have been together ever since - all of 17 years this December 22nd and married for 12 and a half years a month later on 22nd January 2008!
It all began ……..
Once upon a time …….. oh yes, first we had the faerytale (this too is another story) and only after killing many dragons, we finally reached…………
……..and they lived happily ever after.
IT’S CHRISTMAS TIME
16 December 1990
INTRO: C - Em - F - G - C (Waltz)
CHORUS: It’s Christmas time, the season for giving
A time for remembering Jesus love.
VERSE 1 And if you hope to find another
Who’ll share your love, this time you’ll follow,
Because it’s Christmas time, the season for giving
A time for sharing, all of your love. Chorus
VERSE 2 And if you hope to be reunited
With family and friends, I hope you’ll see them
Because it’s Christmas time, the season for giving
A time for sharing, all of your love. Chorus
Score available shortly
OPENING THE STARGATE
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The DAY OF THE VOW - 16 DECEMBER
http://www.southafrica-travel.net/history/eh_blood.htm
THE CENOTAPH
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Voortrekker_Monument
CONNECTION BETWEEN VOORTREKKER MONUMENT AND BATTLE OF BLOOD RIVER
http://www.southafrica-travel.net/history/eh_blood.htm
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